The Uneligable Parent

There are numerous families that do not have the ability to conceive. They are on long waiting lists for foster children due to the extensive process, and in worse case scenarios are told they are not eligible. They spend thousands of dollars trying envitro and fertility drugs to get nothing in the end. They try surrogates for the surrogate mom to not be able to let the child go in the end. On the other hand, there is a system full of children with no parents to take and care for them. There is no one to provide that daily nurturing and self esteem boost that they so deeply need. Then we have the people that can have children and do nothing but take that mere privilege for granted.

I'm talking about the parents that have no intentions of sustaining a career other than making babies and waiting for government assistance. Assistance that the hard working tax paying people can't get even on their worse day. Assistance that never sees the child because its being spent on the parents best interests while the kids needs are no where in thought.

I'm talking about the parents that birth children and then use them as their personal punching bags. The children that are not only punched physically, but also punched mentally, emotionally, and Socially through everyday conversations. The children that once in adulthood don't even know how to interact with society due to their parents abuse. Parents that cause these children to live everyday in fear of being hurt.

I'm talking about the parents that use their children as their own personal slaves. Children that don't see the outside other than when going to school because their parents have them in the house catering to their every needs. The children that are forced day in and day out to scrub and maintain a household that they have no clue how to run. Not the average "clean up after yourself". Oh no, I'm talking about "here you take this toothbrush and scrub the cracks of those bathroom tiles".

I'm talking about the parents that take no responsibility for their lives or actions. Rather, when something goes wrong the children are to blame. They want to run home based businesses, but don't want to provide a home that is sustainable and presentable to run that business. Then when the clients don't want to come back, its the children's fault. Parents that don't want to work but blame the child and their school schedules for their inabilities to be providers. Parents that have been in the same financial positions for over 10 years, have had more children since then, yet their current situations are those kids fault.

I'm talking about the parents that are suppose to be role models. Living examples. Mentors. Teachers. Yet these are the same parents that are 40 years old though you would not know that when they begin to speak. They speak and walk the generation slang as if they are still in high school and it suppose to cute and admirable. It's not. I'm talking about the 40 year old parents that can't help their children with their home work, not because they themselves do not understand it, but rather they do not feel it important enough to take the time out of them doing nothing to help.

It's time these parents wake up to reality. A child should not have to raise themselves. They should not have to learn life lesson's on their own. Granted their are some families where these situations are not avoidable. But those are not the families that I speak of here. I speak of the families where the parents no better but don't care. Where they can provide but don't because it does not fit their idea of day to day activities. These children did not ask to be birthed and thus should not have to live with their parents choices.

It's time that we resort back to communities. Step in when we can and leave when we should. Not to overstep your boundaries. But if you take your children to school and you see the kids next door that walk 2 miles to get to the same school your driving to, give them a ride. When you know that the family down the street starves their children, slip them food to eat when you can. It only takes a little bit of effort for a child to know that someone cares. Even the worst children in your neighborhood could appreciate an occasion thank you when they do something noble.